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    March 06, 2011

    Just wondering...If you were Trey's girlfriend would you accept him telling everyone that he's single? Would you accept him telling you not to tell anyone about y'all? What about social events? Would you accept him walking the red carpet alone, or with anyone instead of you? And last but not least - while he's 'living single' in the public eye, would you accept him telling you where you can and can't go?

     

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Essence711's picture
on Mar 6, 2011 - 10:12PM

Just wondering...If you were Trey's girlfriend would you accept him telling everyone that he's single? Would you accept him telling you not to tell anyone about y'all? What about social events? Would you accept him walking the red carpet alone, or with anyone instead of you? And last but not least - while he's 'living single' in the public eye, would you accept him telling you where you can and can't go?

 

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Essence711's picture

LOL!! Why the hell did I just write - Entry 19. I'm losing it, y'all.

@Tee
Yes I understand your point completely. I have a friend who's been in my life since before I had my kids. We used to date on and off. We only had sex maybe two or three times back then. Then we stopped dating when I got involved with my kids' father. That lasted about ten years, and this guy and I stayed friends. When I broke up with my kids' father, I went out with this friend about twice in the last two years, we only had sex once. My point is that I love being friends with this guy. When we hang out, he takes me to nice places, and we have a lot of fun. He doesn't pressure for me sex, and he never pushes me for a relationship. He's the kind of guy I can be friends with forever.
A Friend With Benefits

Katts's picture

i am a very private person so i wouldn't mind not being known. i have lived in the lime light and i am glad to be out of it so i would be very comfortable with that but no man including Trey gets to tell me what to do. if i see that me going somewhere or doing something really bothers him i would consider his feeling and stay away but no man rule this girl.

TEETIMME's picture

@Essence, I think u understand where Im coming from w this bc really, Id rather have him as a FRIEND FOR LIFE than as an EX-GIRLFRIEND!

NOW...if we do decide to be pursue a relationship, HED BETTER ACKNOWLEDGE me at some point, or its over, lol! Not acknowledging is a form of disrespect, which I WOULD NOT TOLERATE, and I think we can ALL agree on that!

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"Essence711 says
(2 days ago)

I'd take being friends with benefits much better because that would be something special we shared between us, and no one has to know about that. But, if I'm SUPPOSED to be known, for example, if we had a kid together, no way in hell am I playing the chick in the background. Married or not, we'd be a family and that automatically qualifies me as the top chick in his life - after Mumma April - of course. Oh, and Grumma, too. THEN me!!
Well...come to think of it, he has two grandmothers, and some aunts who helped raise him, so it would be all of them, and THEN me!! And I'm not hiding in the background for anyone!!
Come to think of it, those aunts better be REAL aunts like his parents' sisters and such.
Let's not even go there with the rank OUR CHILD would have. I wish he would treat me like I'm the NANNY out in public... Trey Songz would become a Blues singer because all hell would break loose then.
Oh, like I was saying, being friends with benefits wouldn't be so bad for me. We're both grown so we should know what we're doing. He would HAVE to be single though. I don't want to be his mistress. Once you start there, you're stuck there."
I LAUGHED SO HARD WHEN I READ THIS, STILL LOLing!

IM TYPING IN CAPS TO STAND OUT, NOT TO YELL, REALLY, BC I WANT IT TO BE SEEN AND NOT OVERLOOKED...

THE REASON I SAID FWB IS BC THATS WHERE I AM IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW! COMING FROM A BAD MARRIAGE, I DONT WANT A RELATIONSHIP, AND SO IF ITS NOT A RELATIONSHIP ITS WHAT....A FRIENDSHIP. IF YOURE FRIENDS AND HAVE SEX ON A REGULAR BC U ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE TO EACH OTHER, THEN WHATS THAT CALLED? THATS HOW IT WOULD BE W/ ME. I DONT WANT FAME, A "MAN",NONE OF THAT! NOW, TRUE, FEELINGS MAY DEVELOP, OR ONE MAY WANT MORE, BUT ITS UP TO THE COUPLE TO DISCUSS THE RELATIONSHIP GOING FURTHER. AS LONG AS THERES AN UNDERSTANDING, THERES NOTHING WRONG W/ THAT AND I, MYSELF, WOULDNT BE CONSIDERED A "PIECE OF ASS" BC REALLY, U CAN GET IT ANYWHERE!

kg.sunshine's picture

@Ariel - did not hear about the teen mom thing. Not surprised though. Those girls on that show are desperate for attention. I only go on LSA every blue moon or when someone directs me there. They all have strong feels about Trey - either they love him or hate him! :)

JesusIsMySavior's picture

I have been a member for a while but I don't frequent LSA too often. I did go to the Trey discussion to view what was said. :)

Ariel @COOGIdown's picture

@Linz84 I'm sure he knows. I've read like 20 DR's on him. Hella people throw shade like "c'mon Trey & camp... stop with all the same cookie cutter "hes amazing & big etc" stories!" lmao
Guess where MTO gets ALL (and I mean ALL) their "exclusive insider tips?" They straight copy & paste the incog posts like 3 days after they're posted. SMH. But I love it!!! Like... I saw on LSA that Amber from Teen Mom SE1 leaked nekkid pics of herself. Did you guys hear about that??

Linz84's picture

lol @ stlgirl4lyfe2010 and JesusisMySavior!

lol LSA got a few celebrity in trouble! Not too long ago Dwight Howard wanted to sue a LSA member for slandering his name. LSA always have the news first. lol I love LSA. I wonder if Trey knows about LSA? lol

JesusIsMySavior's picture

Now you are going to have me going to LSA. LOL

stlgirl4lyfe2010's picture

u all are on LSA me too lol

Linz84's picture

@Ariel LSA is the best!!! Yea those groupies love Trey! lol

V@lleyGurl's picture

Man this is an awesome topic!...everyone had some good points

My notes/answer to the question is...I'm torn!!! Me personally I couldn't date him..it's just wayyy to much that comes with that territory..but if I was..I'm a low key kind of person so I wouldn't want all the glam and red carpet kind of things anyway so I could be cool with the fact of him not announcing my name and going places..ya know things like that but on the flip side I see everyone as equal whether you have money or not...so that saying you single kind of deal not going to fly! boi you better claim me! lol...
Just remember...People..NOT just men...will do what they want to do regardless...so no matter if he says he's single has a gf or married...some people are just trifflin and don't have enough respect for themselves or others and titles DONT MATTER to them!

Ariel @COOGIdown's picture

@Linz84 yea I've been subscribed to that thread since I started... I've read it all. I've found out the BESTTTTT things on LSA about Trey. :) Those groupies got a THANG for Trey! GiGi crazy fa that. But.... she can do what she wants cuz shes "yo strippers favorite stripper."

Linz84's picture

Hey Ariel lol yea I can tell. lol the reason why because you talk about Fabolous was sleeping with some girl and told his girl to go some place elese. LMFAO!!! I remember hearing that on LSA. LOL thats why I ask! yea I saw that topic on Gigi and Trey! I don't know how Gigi can take naked pic with men and be comfortable! i can't do that! LOL ARIEL GO TO lsa website and click on the topic on Trey. Go to page 91. On page 91 some females claim that Trey was wildin on London! LOL

ladyt1980's picture

i luv me far 2 much 2 let any1 no matter how much i luv them 2 treat me w/ disrespect. if we r 2gether than we shudnt have 2 hide that. but i will respect that he is a public figure.

stlgirl4lyfe2010's picture

To me it's all about respect yes I know he has an image to uphold and if you are in a relationship with someone and you do not acknowledge them in any shape or form then how is it going to work. What you respect me in private but not in public so why date someone if you are not going to acknowledge the fact you are in a relationship I don't understand celebrities some damn time. Some of the stuff they do is dumb and this is one of the topics along with hiding kids.

freaky4trey739's picture

none of that would fly! above all he is still a man. and if u allow him to live like that u r only hurting yourself, not him!

Essence711's picture

I love all of the different views this discussion is bringing out. I've said it before - Trey has some very smart Angels.
I'm as obsessed with him as they come, and to be with him would be a dream come true for me. I'm just happy to see that no matter how much we love him, we wouldn't settle for less than we deserve.
If he were to read this, I think he'd respect each and every one of our comments.
Keep em coming Angels. lol

AsherRaine's picture

I don't think I could do it , if your embarrassed by me then why are we together . And I know you don't think you gonna disrespect me on a daily basis then gonna tell me wht I can and can't do , who I can and can't talk to, and better yet where I can and can't go . Lol I wish he would .

JesusIsMySavior's picture

I think the main reason that most celebrity couples break up is because they reveal too much information about their relationship.

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prittbrowniiz

I totally agree.

JesusIsMySavior's picture

I checked i am following you. Well there is allows next time. :)

melaniesaunders@verizon.net's picture

I think i would not be able to be his friend with benefits because I would not want to share trey with anyone. If me and trey were together I would want him to acknowledge me but he could keep me anoymous.

JesusIsMySavior's picture

LOL You are right if you were with Trey your rankings would be lowered. Trey has so many special women in his life. LOL@Nanny He better not treat his lady like the nanny in public.

Prittbrowniiz BestSellerAngel's picture

I'm sorry it was @kg. sunshine who spoke on the individuality and I totally agree with you on that.

@Trey's_Tenshi I agree with your post as well. I don't have to always be on his arm and in the public eye for it to be known that he's not single. I think Jay-Z and Beyonce is a great example of keeping a lot of the details about their relationship out of the public eye. But when it was all said and done you knew that they were together.

Prittbrowniiz BestSellerAngel's picture

Ladies I think this has been a very good discussion.

@Essence711 Great choice for a discussion topic.

@Trey's_ Tenshi, Thank you for your comment on my post. You are so right about our opinions showing our individuality. That's what makes all of us unique and special in our own way, because what may work for some, won't work for others, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Kudos to us ladies for being who we are! YOU!!!

kg.sunshine's picture

@Essence711 - you're about "special friends" - I recall an article from a while ago where I got the sense that he agreed with stance. Hey, as long as each individual understands & respects the terms of the arrangement, then adults can do as they please. As long as it's working for both parties and it's not one-sided, then all is fair.

@Trey's_Tenshi - I understand and I stand in no judgment. Our opinions just show our individuality & there's nothing wrong w/ that. It's just from my standpoint, I've seen things get messy & ppl get their feelings hurt. I've seen ppl play the role like they wanted to be FWB, but they were deep down still holding out hope for more. So they ultimately played themself.

TreysQuietAngel's picture

@ prittbrowniiz, love your post girl!

@ kg.sunshine, I get your views and I respect each and every one of your opinions. But it's just me, I wanna be acknowledged for being the woman in any man's life. If he's not publicly stating he's in a relationship then it'd be just like he's not claiming his woman outside of the house. I think people respect others more when they know they're with someone. If he stated that he's in a relationship then nine times out of ten other women would want to know who's the lucky chic rather than run after him for themselves. I understand how being in a relationship with a celebrity might cause loads of media attention, but not if you keep it to a certain level. All he would have to do is say he's taken when in the eyes of the public. Don't even have to mention my name... just let them know that he has someone special. That would let me know that I'm greatly appreciated.

Essence711's picture

Well what if you're not having sex yet? You don't have to justify anyone else's opinion, right? You know why you don't? Because your sex life is your private business. You only tell those you trust about it. Your friend with benefits would respect that.
To get back on the topic of being with Trey, since he's always saying that he's not ready for a relationship at this point in his life, then if he is having sex, it's with a "friend with benefits".
Most likely, he calls them his "special freinds".
I wouldn't mind him being my special friend. The benefits wouldn't only be coming from him either. He'd definitely know that he's found something special in me too.

Essence711's picture

The term "friends with benefits" can mean something different to each individual. In my case, it means, and has meant for a while now, having a person you can hang with, talk to and relate to, and if you decide to have sex with that person that's between you and that person. I mean, the two would have to be mature enough to understand what's going on.
You don't have to put your feelings on the line just because you decide to have sex with some one.
Then again, I do know what happens when one person starts to feel more for the other person, and things get sort of out of tune. I've been there with my feelings, and I've also had someone feel that way for me. Those situations don't work out in the end.
On the other hand, if this person is really someone who respects you and you respect them, and you're attracted to each other, why not? The benefit is that you're with someone you trust, and who won't judge you, or throw all kinds of emotional crap on you, and therefore ruin a perfectly good friendship. And the point is that you don't always have to have sex with that person. It's just that the option is there.
If you have a "friend with benefits" and after you have sex all you feel like is a piece of ass, then that's not friends with benefits, that's a booty call. The difference is when you call that person, it's not all about the sex - it's really about the friendship.
Some people may not agree, or haven't had the type of experience I'm talking about. All I can say is that I've experienced it and it's fine with me.
When you're friends with someone, usually everybody knows about it because usually there's nothing to hide. If you're having sex with that person, that's something that can be kept private, if you choose to have it that way. If you choose to tell others, then that's your business, too. It all depends on you and them.
If you're in a relationship with someone and it's known, then most often, it's assumed you're sleeping with them, right?

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