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    March 06, 2011

    Just wondering...If you were Trey's girlfriend would you accept him telling everyone that he's single? Would you accept him telling you not to tell anyone about y'all? What about social events? Would you accept him walking the red carpet alone, or with anyone instead of you? And last but not least - while he's 'living single' in the public eye, would you accept him telling you where you can and can't go?

     

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Essence711's picture
on Mar 6, 2011 - 10:12PM

Just wondering...If you were Trey's girlfriend would you accept him telling everyone that he's single? Would you accept him telling you not to tell anyone about y'all? What about social events? Would you accept him walking the red carpet alone, or with anyone instead of you? And last but not least - while he's 'living single' in the public eye, would you accept him telling you where you can and can't go?

 

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Essence711's picture

Thanks and LOL at most of the comments. Keep 'em coming!

MedSchoolAngel's picture

lol @ #RebelliousAngel i know that's right...

I mean i could accept him saying that he's single and what not that's a part of the industry. I mean it would be great if he claimed me, but at home and in the studio is fine. The label knows about me so take it how you want it. He can walk the red carpet alone if he wants but best believe i'm GOING TO BE at the social events. We don't have to be all lovey dovey but he will "KNOW" me and address me. Relationships shouldn't be demanding so i would hope he's not like You can't go this place (unless it's a industry date type of environment). I mean i would think of his career, but he has to equally think of me and my feelings. It's about the compromise

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@jesusismysavior RIGHT! thats what i believe.

follow me on twitter guys lol @KiyJuicy_
i follow all angels back

Numba1Hon's picture

Essence711. You guys on this board are too funny. Trey would get a kick out of this. You all don't have no shame. I got a short story answering how I would handle Trey keeping it secret at that party and afterwards, but I'm too ashamed to put it up here. I'm afraid they might run me off the board. How much trash are we allowed to talk on this board. I have to find a fan fiction website to post on. But I have to stay anonymous. I don't want my friends to know I'm writing these sort of things even if it is fiction.

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lol@cuttgurl609 & essence711

Essence711's picture

@Tee
YES! His bottom lip is so sexy.
If I was in a video with him, and we had to kiss, I'd just suck that lip like a pacifier. I wonder if he likes having his bottom lip sucked.

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@CutTGurl609 & @JIMS
Heck yeah! LOL. I'd be standing next to him casually sipping something and the moment someone came over with a camera, I'd put my arms around him. For the second one, I'd tell him that he has something on his eyebrow and I'd pull his head down to blow it away. When the picture is taken, it would look like I was trying to kiss him. I'd be like,
"I got it BooBoo!"
And just as they clicked the third pic, I'd put his hands right on my booty. Then I'd laugh and say,
"Treeeeeey! Why you gotta grab my butt like that? Can't you wait til we get home? You so bad!"

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@Tee lol #teambottomlip all the way hahaha

@JIMS yessss I could imagine Essence bein extra at a party too like "Cooome 'eeerrree give me a kiss. Ain't nobody loookiiin. Alright alright alright loo loo loo loook, its dark ova here come on jus one......... ok ok ok one more" lmao

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Essence711

You are too much. LOL I could imagine you being at a party all loud calling Trey “pookie”. LOL

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Numba1Hon

You’re welcome. :) Yes everyone does have some good points. You are right Trey does know how to get into the minds of women.

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Essence711 You are right.

Essence711's picture

I love Trey Songz - the artist. I truly believe that he is a gift from Heaven. I know that he is just as human as we are, but I think that he was put here for our delight. He's like chocolate, like really delicious chocolate. That feeling you get when you eat it, or smell it, you know?
If you don't like chocolate, then just think of your favorite dessert, or sweet food, and you'll know what I'm talking about.
What is it about him that's just so right? I've said it before, no, I wouldn't accept the above stated treatment from him, but I know that I wouldn't just break up with him, either. I guess that's when he'd see the #RebelliousAngel in me come out. He could tell me to keep our relationship on the low, but somehow, at a party or something, I'd let it "slip". I could see me having a little too much to drink, and "accidentally" calling him baby, and hugging him a little too much in front of a few cameras. I could see me "apologizing" later on at home.
Trust me, he'd forgive me.

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JesusisMySavior. Thanks. I think a lot of goods points were made by everyone, but I have been trying to figure out what would happen in any given case considering the above fictional scenario. I could be wrong because people are human and anything is possible. Along with you, I also understand why some fans, especially the youngest ones, would get frustrated and angry. It's because the tease leads to the hope and the promise of more and when they are not able to realize even a part of the fantasy, they feel frustrated and cheated. That is because Tremaine acting as Trey Songz is exceptionally skilled at getting into the female psyche, and he is well equipped to do that. I don't blame him. I think he is giving fans what they asked for. The problem is now millions of woman around the world would like to have access to him not only as an entertainer but as a man, but all he can deliver for the most part is the fantasy. Hopefully most fans and they are enjoying it.

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Numba1Hon

You have some valid points.

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What I was trying to say in my last comment is this. The woman would have to be a match for Trey. In other words she would have a lot going on for herself and have everything he desires in a woman. This could be confidence, beauty, sexiness, style, sprituality, character, occupation, social value, family values, etc. This means he really values her and would not want to lose her. She is her own woman and is not falling all over him because he is Trey Songz. She knows the real person (Tremaine) with the pluses and the minuses because she has taken the time to know him personally because she was not overly impressed by the persona and loves him for himself. She probably has other suitors that would offer him competition, and therefore he knows she would not stay long if she is receiving the short end of the stick. Also she knows he holds her in very high esteem because of his actions. She would have to be very secure in herself and sure of her value to him in order to deal with the persona Trey Songz. If she is that type of woman, then I could see both agreeing to keep the relationship private until things got serious and until they agreed to an exclusive relationship. I may agree with that if I were that woman, but there would be a time limit. After that time, he would have to let the public know he is taken. For any other woman, I think she would be at a great disadvantage if she was his "girlfriend" period, and if he asked her to keep things a secret, it would seem as though she was getting played even though that might not have been the intention. I think she would wind up losing self esteem and he would wind up feeling less attraction/respect for her. A relationship like that could happen because of physical attraction and rushing too fast into a relationship that is really not the best fit.

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yeah i could go for it because i wouldnt want to have our relationship in the public eye and he might lose a lot of fans if they knew he was with somebody they wont look at him the same or the girl might get a crazy stalker that might want to kill the girlfriend and as long as he tellin me he love me and im seeing the benfits of that im ok cuz you got to look at the bigger picture you dont want his music sells to drop he wont have sold out tours and his name wont be as hot and you in the public eye now you cant do nothing everybody will be tryin to tear yall down and the relationship wont work so i guess i will say i can deal with it i will take a lot cuz i know whats behind it

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Maybe its okay if the girlfriend is a celebrity and wants her privacy as badly as he wants his. More than likely he will have a girlfriend that is a celebrity, model, club host, etc., and she may not want the publicity either. If it is a woman who is on his level that has as much to lose as he does by having the fans and media watching their every move, then I think it is okay for them to agree to keep things private. I really think this is how he will handle things until things when the time is right and when things get really serious. This relationship will probably be with a woman that is not that impressed with him. He said himself that he is more interested in the woman who is not interested in him meaning the woman that are not so overzealous like the fans and the groupies. He said he doesn't deal with groupies and that he personally knows woman in the cities that he goes to. I don't think he would tell any girlfriend when and where she could go and I also think he will manage to fit any girlfriend or female friend into his social activities one way or the other even secretly. Celebrities learn to keep their business private. Trey, however, has chosen to share a lot of his life with the fans, but I do think he needs some privacy because dealing with the prying, and the gossip and the unsolicited opinions about him is too much. Look at what happened to Usher and Tameka. Trey's ex Helen also was getting hate form Trey fans while she was with Trey and even recently she had to block a persistent hater on Twitter. So I think part of the reason, he would keep his relationship(s) private (if that is in fact what he is doing) is due to those reasons and to please some of his loving fans who are so caught up in the fantasy they don't want him to have anybody. Personally, I would love to see him have or girlfriend or even get back with Helen, but I don't think it would be a good idea at this time at least not publicly.

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@Tianna (CutGirl609)
girl I watched that video & all I saw was that bottom lip, lmao! #teambottomlip Hahaha!

Well, there it is...he's selling a BRAND, "who wants to have a girlfriend or holding hands w/ the same girl" so if youre going to be in a relationship w/ him, be prepared to be "unmentioned" , thats part of the business!

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@Essence711

Yes that is what I noticed he pinpointed a specific age. I will agree his core audience is young adults and teens. I’ve said this before if you publicly state you couldn’t see yourself dating a fan than why create a fantasy of attainability when you aren’t. I believe that is the reason so many artist lose fans because fans fantasies gets crushed when reality hits. I agree I think it’s sad that he feels no one wants to hear he has someone in his life. Though to some degree he is right there are a segment of fans that don’t want to hear he has someone special in his life. But there are others that want the best for him and as long as the woman that is in his life is treating him right and he is treating her right we are happy. You didn’t mind and many others didn’t either. It is something you get use to. After a couple of red carpet events with him and his lady I’ll get use to seeing them together. :) You are right it is more feasible that he has a special woman in his life. He is just too adorable to not have anyone. LOL That’s true you do have to look at it like I don’t know this brother personally why should I take it personal if he has a special lady. You’re probably right even the ladies he does know won’t get a chance to be his lady. I guess you wonder are they true fans if they turn against him because he has someone. Right we wouldn’t be any better than a hater.

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@CutTGurl609
Thanks for that clip.
What I noticed about the part where he mentions selling a brand is that he said the interviewer mentioned 23 year olds. I'll agree that he's very smart when it comes to knowing how to appeal to his target audience. Although his fan base ranges in age, his core focus is on the young adult crowd, where fantasy is what drives the sales.
I tend to look at things from the standpoint of what happens after the fantasy. He can sing all of those sexy songs, grind and gyrate all on me and promise me a night of wonder and sexual fulfilment. That's all good, but one night of hot, unforgettable sex isn't enough for me. I lived that life before I had my kids and before I began to take relationships more seriously.
Maybe that's why he loses fans so easily. He's so good at what he does to get the fans, then when he doesn't live up to the 'image' he created, it rubs some fans the wrong way. I think it's because they're so caught up in the fantasy where he loves everyone all the same and he'll do anything for his fans.
He said that nobody wants to hear that he has someone in his life. That's sad to me. Like I said before, I didn't mind when he was in a relationship. I still adored him, and frankly, it made sense to me that he had a girl. Most attractive men have girlfriends or wives. I also said that it didn't bother me because I don't know him personally. It's not like he had chosen some other girl over me. Let's face it, as a fan, the odds of being with him are pretty steep. Not that it can't happen, but even most of the women he does know will never have the chance to be the one he calls his own. He has to live under the constant glare of the spotlight, a high price to pay for fame, but there should be a way that he can live his life normally, with a mate, and not have his fans turn against him. Remember, the haters aren't the ones who care about him - we are. We're no better than they are if we turn away from him just because he gets a girl.

JesusIsMySavior's picture

Around the same time of that interview he did an interview with Angela Yee and he mentioned that.

CutTiGurl609's picture

Have you guys ever seen this? I just came across it and Trey is saying how having a girlfriend is bad for the brand. I knew he realized it but I've never heard him say it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wl-SF_kr8dU

Just something interesting for this topic :-)

Vaughnie_Nunu's picture

Hell NO!!! I will NOT Except any of that... that's why I think we would just be friends with benefits.. Wink.. I'm a June Cancer by nature so I can't pretend.. besides my emotions would be on over load to the point of boiling it will not work..

JesusIsMySavior's picture

“Oh, yeah, if he has to stay single, or hide his relationship just to keep his fan base, then who are all those sexy love songs for? He can't dedicate them to anyone, because it would bring on a negative effect. If he says he dedicates them to all of us, then come on, you mean to tell me that he wants to make love faces with me, and you, and her, and her, and her, and her sexy mama, too? Where's the intimacy in that? I mean that's okay for his sold out shows, where he's making love to all the women in the room, but come on. We all want Tremaine for ourselves. And if Tremaine is involved, then so is Trey Songz. You can separate the two mentally, but not physically.”

You make a very valid point.

“I can't have my man Tremaine loving me behind closed doors, but as soon as he leaves the house, he turns into Trey Songz, and therefore I no longer fit into his world. Where would the line be drawn?”

“That's why I asked if it's acceptable for him to do the things I mentioned above. Of course no one controls him and he can do what he wants, but just because he's a celebrity, would it make it okay? Not for me.”

It wouldn’t be acceptable for me either. And this is why I couldn’t deal with being in a relationship like that.

“I'm not calling anyone out, or saying that my opinion is right, so please don't take offense to this. Everyone is entitled to their own point of view and all views are welcome. Shoo, I'm tryna keep this topic alive as long as possible. LOL.”

Thanks for keeping it alive.

Then the pressure is on him to decide where to draw the line

JesusIsMySavior's picture

Trey being celibate would be very interesting.

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Essence711

Safety reasons I can see keeping a relationship a secret. That is an interesting question. Yes why would some people be more comfortable with him hiding his relationship from the public? It would break that fantasy. To me the sooner you know the easier it will be to deal with. I ask myself would I stop liking him any less if he became more open about his relationship. Sure hope not. Thankfully I didn’t start liking him for his outer appearance but for his music. I truly think it’s sad that an artist has to hide or forsake a relationship because it could be career suicide. I agree the artist’s talent should be what counts. Hands down I think Trey is one of the hardest working artists out there. I truly admire his work ethic. I’m sure you weren’t the only one that still fantasized about him even though he had a special lady in his life. I agree they were an attractive couple. You make a good point sexual appeal could be just keep yourself up physically and mentally.

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Yes I would stay "secret", No he CAN NOT tell me what to do and not do because I dont care who it is you just cant tell me what to do period. Now he will have to act the part, which means no having sex with other girls because he is "Single". The red carpet??/ Uh if Im not on the bitch with him then no one but Ms.A. Tucker can be on the Red Carpet and thats the end of that. =)
But it would be extremely hard to keep up the lie or act...... I would get fed up with it eventually.

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As far as being secret lovers, I can do it if there's a reason to, like if we're having an affair. I still can't see Trey and I being involved and we have to keep it a secret, yet it's okay for people to think he's single. See, he wouldn't be just telling people he's single. He'd be doing the things that single men do, too. Yeah, so he can keep up his image. So I'd have to deal with living a lie, all so that he can promote a lie. And if he can lie to us about the one he really does love, then is he being honest with us when he says he loves us?
Alright, please don't kill me. I'll still love him no matter what, but some of these responses are really making me think.
Oh, yeah, if he has to stay single, or hide his relationship just to keep his fan base, then who are all those sexy love songs for? He can't dedicate them to anyone, because it would bring on a negative effect. If he says he dedicates them to all of us, then come on, you mean to tell me that he wants to make love faces with me, and you, and her, and her, and her, and her sexy mama, too? Where's the intimacy in that? I mean that's okay for his sold out shows, where he's making love to all the women in the room, but come on. We all want Tremaine for ourselves. And if Tremaine is involved, then so is Trey Songz. You can separate the two mentally, but not physically.
I can't have my man Tremaine loving me behind closed doors, but as soon as he leaves the house, he turns into Trey Songz, and therefore I no longer fit into his world. Where would the line be drawn?
That's why I asked if it's acceptable for him to do the things I mentioned above. Of course no one controls him and he can do what he wants, but just because he's a celebrity, would it make it okay? Not for me.
I'm not calling anyone out, or saying that my opinion is right, so please don't take offense to this. Everyone is entitled to their own point of view and all views are welcome. Shoo, I'm tryna keep this topic alive as long as possible. LOL.

Essence711's picture

If I was in a relationship with Trey, or any famous person, and he told me that we had to keep our relationship a secret for our SAFETY, then I would probably be okay with it. Like for instance, if he's a very powerful political figure, and he's always being threatened with assassination attempts, then I'd completely understand.
Trey is adorable, and yes, many people in this world would agree with that statement. That being said, how is it that many of those same people would be so put off by the notion of him being happy in a relationship, that they would rather him hide it from the public?
It's like they're saying, "Oh, we don't like you as much anymore because you have a girlfriend. We don't want you to have a girlfriend because then our fantasies about becoming your girlfriend will never come true!"
I put up a discussion months ago about whether Trey would ever date one of his Angels. I got a lot of responses from people who are very sure that he would NEVER date an Angel or a fan. At the same time, there was another discussion on whether he is or was dating another celebrity. Most of the people who responded hated that idea too. It seems as if a lot of people feel a lot safer in their thoughts of Trey only existing to satisfy their desires. He must keep his love life a secret, or better yet, he shouldn't have one, or else he can kiss his career goodbye.
I'm not comfortable with that because I've always been one to think that an artist's talent and drive should be what matters most.
When Trey had a girlfriend, I was still head over heels for him and I really thought that they made a cute couple. I mean I had my fantasies about him, but in reality, it didn't matter to me, because I don't know him personally.
Of course, his sex appeal counts, and it's important for him to maintain a certain image, but I thought that meant that he should keep his face and body physically attractive, and his character good natured and honest.
Should Trey be celibate too?

JesusIsMySavior's picture

I agree I think he would make a great friend.

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