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How can I Mend a Broken heart?

  • Dear Trey Angels,
    If you can identify with me and give me any advice on the trials I'm going through right now could you please do so. My Boyfriend (currently now my ex)of 8 months has broken up with me because he feels he has to "Find" himself. There isn't another woman, he just has to find some stability in his life since he's just lost his job, not in school, and his opportunity of playing ball in Europe has gone because he doesn't have the finances to do so. I've put so much into our relationship and so has he, but he's confused with what he wants to do with his life. I don't want to lose him completely out my life, I do want to have a friendship with him but I'm just hurting so much. This will be my first time ever being "let go" from someone. How do you get over a broken heart? and should I be his friend? please Help.

    Sincerely,
    a Broken-Hearted Angel

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Coco-Chanel's picture
on March 21, 2012 - 7:17pm
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Dear Trey Angels,
If you can identify with me and give me any advice on the trials I'm going through right now could you please do so. My Boyfriend (currently now my ex)of 8 months has broken up with me because he feels he has to "Find" himself. There isn't another woman, he just has to find some stability in his life since he's just lost his job, not in school, and his opportunity of playing ball in Europe has gone because he doesn't have the finances to do so. I've put so much into our relationship and so has he, but he's confused with what he wants to do with his life. I don't want to lose him completely out my life, I do want to have a friendship with him but I'm just hurting so much. This will be my first time ever being "let go" from someone. How do you get over a broken heart? and should I be his friend? please Help.

Sincerely,
a Broken-Hearted Angel

Quinzarener's picture

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TreysNewestAngel1's picture

You should respect his feelings! If he doesn't have another woman you are good! To him as a man, he wants to be the one in control, not so much in control but he wants to be the one to bring home the bacon as some would say. It doesn't matter if you decide to take care of him while he's in this drought or not, He seems like the type of man that goes hard for what he wants out of life and for all of it to be gone is devastating to him. So, what you need to do is be his friend (for right now) his confidant, his go to lady when he is really down. One thing that I will recommend for you both is, if he's going through this and both of you are hurting from this, you two should Seek God! Not sure what your religious beliefs are, but there are so many people in this world right now that's going through what he is going through and alot of them are putting their faith in God. If he(your ex) is right for you God will show you. And remember when one door closes another always open. Maybe God is getting ready to put your ex in a position that can set both of you up for life. Maybe your ex was comfortable with his life and now its time for a change. I know it hurts, Ive been through a stage in my life when I didn't know what to do after losing my father, moving away only to be unemployed and worn out from school. BUT, I am standing firm on the word of God and believing that I will get back on track. All you have to do is have faith the size of a mustard seed. Hebrew 11:1 says Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Pray and have Faith and everything will work itself out. Blessings

Coco-Chanel's picture

thank you. thank you so much for that. u really dont know how much your advise means. i do truly care for him and i want him to be stable. i just don't want this to be a reoccurred thing. i love him so much, i love him dearly. but i'm hurting somuch right now

bornprettybee's picture

If he is not leaving you for another woman and just taking time to find himself or stability in his life then why are you letting go? If you love someone and you truly care about them, you are going to fight for what means the most to you no matter what the odds are. I don't believe you should let go. Just give him some time to get himself together because right now it seems like he is just having a hard time and his manhood is probably hurting. Sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture of things. You could reach out as a friend to let him know you are there if he needs you or just to let him know you still care. The smallest gesture goes the longest way. You know the saying, "the littlest things means the most." Take that saying into account. And if you guys have invested so much in your relationship then let time tell. I'm pretty sure you guys aren't just going to throw away what you had. If you do have a broken heart though, its not going to mend over night! Maybe days, weeks, months or maybe even years. Just don't give up! Good Luck :)

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